Me(25F) and my fiance(20M) have sex daily multiple times, we got a lot of free time on our hand, love each other so much and enjoy it a lot, no problem with it, we do it whenever we feel like it, but foreplay never lasts long enough. The part of this problem is that he is too horny and can’t keep up, as soon as I take off my shirt, few seconds later and he’s inside me, longest foreplay recently was like 30 seconds when he kissed my body before he couldn’t take longer. This never bothered me earlier in our relationship until recently because I was like this also.
Thankfully oral lasts 20 minutes sometimes and he likes to perform it on me so it’s not a big deal, but I would like a longer foreplay for a couple of minutes, ya know, him kissing my body slowly, teasing me etc and watching him while he does it. He kisses me all over while we are having sex, but I would like proper foreplay slowly before it and before I get into it because most of the time I can’t take it also. I tried to delay it with being in provocative clothes, teasing, slowly delaying, a bit of dry humping, backing off while standing up and playfully telling him that and teasing him, well let’s just say after that involved a lot of knocking stuff over around, squirming, yelling and probably upsetting the neighbors and I liked it, if we had sound-proof walls I’d totally do that again. I tried delaying a bit multiple times and nothing.
tl;dr: even tho me and my fiance have amazing sex every day, foreplay lasts loo little and I would like it to be at least 10 minutes, anything I could do about it?
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Have you considered talking to him about it
Have a straight up conversation *outside of sex*
Foreplay should be an important part of your daily sex routine. Talk to your partner about what both of you want and need. Make sure that you both take enough time to enjoy it (at least 10 minutes!) and don’t rush into the next stage. You may also want to try different activities such as roleplaying and foreplay games, or suggesting new positions or toys to make it more exciting.
Try role-playing! You could both dress up and you can tease each other for a few minutes before starting foreplay. That way, it will make it more interesting and create more anticipation.
Tell him, not Reddit
I think it would be a good idea to start with something like a game or an activity that will help you both relax and focus on the build-up. Maybe try watching a movie together beforehand or reading some erotica out loud, anything that gets your mind away from the main event and makes you both feel relaxed. That way, when you go into the foreplay, you’ll both be in the right frame of mind for it.