I’m 24 F .
I had sex for the first time last night and it felt like unbearable pain even without condom because I heard without condom would be ease.
Even It was 100% consensual and I was in control most of the time.
Whenever he tried to insert I felt pain everytime that was like unbearable But I still felt sad after and it felt wrong. I don’t even feel very attracted or connected to the sex right now. I almost don’t feel like I’m living real life. Is this normal for first time with every girl ? Or he was doing wrongfully. Should I stay positive and try again?
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The first time, if the hymen is intact, it will probably tear. So that hurts a lot more than usual. After that though, it can start to feel a lot better.
In theory ob-gyns can do a quick snip surgery with topical anesthetic to clear the hymen, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a woman opting for this.
It’s not uncommon. It could be your hymen was just a hard case. Never having had sex before, nerves/anxiety about sex in general can make women tighten up reflexively to the point that it’s painful too.
Unless he was rough with you, he probably didn’t do anything wrong. Don’t give up on sex, just make sure your partner knows you’re new to this and need to take it slow and get really comfortable before trying again.
That said, if it continues talk to your OBGYN about it. Some women have a medical issue that requires treatment and afterward it’s all good.
Nobody see is unprotected sex and obviously forced sex?
No, safe sex don’t hurt AT ALL.
Slow way down. No rush. Don’t penetrate until your kinda craving that. And then go slow and easy. It should not be that painful. Unless your speaking about anal!
It’s normal, the first few times hurt (with or without a condom)
Ask him to give you more foreplay before sex, like fingering, clitoral stimulation, oral, maybe some mutual or solo masturbation etc.. get him to make you so wet that you crave him inside you. Don’t rush it, don’t let him rush you, keep safe 💜
Sometimes if you arent wet enough it can hurt a lot too. Maybe next time you want to use lube to make sure? And lots of foreplay before penetration. But if it still hurts even after that you might wanna look into vaginal dilators