My ADHD sex life

I’m recently diagnosed with ADHD. It’s explaining a lot of my life, from confirming assumptions others have made about me to giving me personal validation that I’m not just bad at life.

I think there’s a significant correlation between being neurodivergent and sex. For years I just thought I was different. I have just as many kinks as the next person and I feel I’ve truly explored my sexuality. However, what’s always puzzled me is my relationship with sex.

I’ve had intense hyper focused periods where sex is a constant thought in my mind. This manifests by meeting new people and finding myself in a collection of places, such as hotels, cars, homes I’ve never been to before all to have sex, mostly with strangers and a few old friends. I’ll not go to work to have sex. I’ll stay up until 4 am talking to people online about sex. I’ll purposely arrange my work schedule to travel to cities where I know people who I’ll have sex with. It’s incredibly impulsive yet calculated. I take risks and although aware of the consequences, they mean absolutely nothing to me.

Then, when the novelty has worn off, the dopamine supply dries up and I’ll not even think about it for weeks. I lose contact with people, I don’t show up to regular meets and even masterbating practically disappears. It’s like that was another person and I can barely relate to them.

I find a new “normal” hobby and it leaves my mind. Few months later and it’s like I’m a teenager who will give anything to get laid and I’m back to square one and I’m walking up in a someone else’s bed.

I know fads, hobbies and craving novelty are all manifestations of the hyperfocused ADHD brain. Sex just seems to be one of mine, that shows up when I least expect it only to evaporate just as suddenly.

Wanted to share, don’t see enough people talking about this unless it truly is just me!