We were both drunk the other night and played this drinking game and this came out.
We both love eachother very much, been together over a year. I’m for some reason ok with this, she likes the idea of being used etc. I understand this is a kink and not any sort of slight against our sexlife.
Is it weird I’m ok with this? I’m fine on the terms its with strangers and myself. What would be a good way to make this a reality?
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I would talk about it again sober before going forward. You may find that in a sober states she likes it better as a fantasy than something to do IRL. On the other hand even if she doesn’t want to do it IRL, it usually makes for great dirty talk.
If stone cold sober she’s still just as interested I’d suggest going out to a bar and watching her flirt and make out with other guys first. Get a sense if you’re really okay with that kind of thing.
I’m in the same boat except I brought it up to my wife and she only recently acknowledged on her own that she wants to try it.
Right now, we have a few ideas.
1) There’s a friend who lives in another state that we’re thinking of inviting. He’s already very into her.
2) It’s probably easiest (though we haven’t tried yet) to find another couple to swing with (and lots of sites out there to find this plus clubs if you’re near a big city).
3) For more advanced tries at a real gangbang, Fetlife. You host and organize a gangbang for your girl and post there, control who you accept (how long have they been a member and what has been their activity, require STD test results, arrange a location, plan it all out for safety and etc.) I doubt my wife is looking to go that far, but I looked into it for a more “advanced” friend.
Personally I don’t think it’s weird. I actually think that’s amazing that you can be open and accepting of her kinks! As long as you two have sat down and talked about your feelings, how y’all want to go about it in a way where neither of you get hurt… non monogamy is totally 100% okay!
This is gonna kill the whole relationship, don’t do it and dont let her do it.
There is a lot of difference between having a fantasy and watching it in porn and actually doing it. You really want to be careful here
I’m in the same boat as youan
Not weird. Well I don’t find it weird
Go for it haha
I have a online female friend that mentioned once that she was once in a threesome with her boyfriend and his friend. I believe it might have been the boyfriends idea at the time but she said later that she felt like she was being used, like for sex. Essentially she felt like she was just being used for her body.
Talking and doing are two separate things. I’ve been with my partner for a long time, but even I feel like jealousy would overshadow any of the excitement I would have. And the what ifs are also too high..what if you flip the switch and she doesn’t want to stop? What if she finds one she likes better than you? What about pregnancies or STD’s…
Threesomes, foursomes and gangbangs never hurt my long term relationships. But be sure you both really want it before trying – they can’t be undone!
It’s not weird that you’re ok with it.
We all have different boundaries.
If you’re both certain about it and your relationship is strong, there are websites where you can connect with like-minded people and have these experiences.
Go to r/Swingers lots of those questions.