Pretty much title, I have bad adhd and I think this is a big factor that causes me to come off as immature or annoying and yeah I’d really like some tips please.
A couple points:
I would not consider myself socially awkward. I have a small loose group of friends I occasionally hangout with and an amazing g**lfri*nd
The reason why I think I’m annoying is just throughout my life all interactions I’ve sort of had especially in online communities where I’m just not really “accepted” I guess which really sucks because I have a lot of niche hobbies.
Just a shit ton of interactions and a lot of people telling me to stfu I’m annoying.
It does hurt a bit I suppose, no one wanting to be around you. Another example: I was good friends with a coworker for about a year until the very last day where he pretty much made it very clear he never enjoyed talking to me and found me extremely annoying. I just seem to always step on peoples toes.
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First of all, Kudos to you for working on your self growth.
I’m sort of avoiding someone right now who sounds like a similar personality to what you are describing. The reason I find this person annoying is because they never listen. It makes them come off immature. They’re nice, and friendly but their intensity feels like a lot because they’re not listening to others. Do you feel like you listen to those around you? Or do you come in strong with conversation and then continue it all throughout?
Even today, I was having a really serious conversation next to this person with someone else, everything about our faces and body language was clear it was serious, this person came close and could listen to us talking about this sensitive subject and then starts tickling the person I was talking to. You can tell it’s not ill intentioned but they didn’t listen/paid attention
Do you tend to tease people or use “inside jokes”repeatedly? By this I mean consistently referencing an embarrassing moment or calling out a behaviour or characteristic, even though you don’t do it maliciously and you get smiles/nods in response.
Do you look for opportunities to relate others’ stories back to your own life experiences/opinions?
Do you “announce yourself” when you enter a physical or online space in a bombastic or attention-seeking way?
Do you find yourself using “catch phrases” in conversation? By this I mean automatic, predictable responses like always saying, “yeeeeah, boi!” or, “thats what she said!” This could also look like overusing silly voices, impressions, or making immature and predictable jokes (taking every opportunity for a d—k joke, etc.