I’m finding myself at a frustrating crossroads because when talking to the person I’m into, there’s this weird dichotomy that I don’t know how to navigate. Because when we hang out, it’s easy to talk, and it feels natural. Hell, one of my friends thinks that they’re into me when watching us interact. But through messages, it’s much harder, which I usually assume it’s because they’re a very busy person, but it’s a shift. They’re not unfriendly or using one word answers. It’s just that conversations are much shorter and less frequent. I feel incapable of assessing everything.
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Have you asked her out?
Mixed signals = no. If a person is interested, they will give you their time and attention. If they are interested but playing games, they’re bad news anyway. Mixed signals means mixed feelings – they kinda like you and kinda don’t, which is not enough for anything to stick.
Have you tried talking on the phone?
Texting more than a sentence or two is annoying. Tests are for exchanging short pieces of information. It’s not for doing deep dives into the themes of Anna Karenina.
Texting is when you’re not sure if they’re free for a longer conversation. It’s to be done while you’re preoccupied with something else. This isn’t instant messenger where you both make a plan to be online at the same time.
Use text to set up longer calls.