Me [27f] and my bf [27m] have sex every time we get together. In the moment- I’m into it and very enthusiastic. Afterwords I’ve been just tanking emotionally and I’m wondering if maybe aftercare would help?
Aftercare currently is a bit of cuddling and watching YouTube before napping for a while. Usually I just let him sleep so by the time I do get him up I have to take him home.
I spiral a bit on the ride back from dropping him off usually. Just worries from him maybe not having a good time to “is he just using me for sex” to childhood trauma resurfacing. Fun stuff.
I wanna bring up aftercare suggestions to him but I don’t have any good ideas thay would actually make me feel better about things. I was hoping to crowd source some ideas from anyone else who maybe experiences this?
Note: BF is a great guy. He’s very supportive and hasn’t done anything to indicate that any of my worries are true. I just don’t like bringing a problem to the table with no suggestions on how to fix it.
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Why doesn’t he stay you?
Here’s a different take. The emotions of sex are bringing to the surface other issues, not necessarily directly related to your bf or the experience you just shared.
This might be a sign to look into that childhood trauma again with someone?