I (25F) found my boyfriends (29M) porn. Now obviously I was snooping because this topic is uncomfortable for my boyfriend to talk about and I wanted to know what he likes.
For all of his search history, it’s cuckold videos. All of it. In the past I’ve made comments about swapping with the another couples partner and we all can be in the same room together but made it clear that he doesn’t want to see me with another guy.. ? That wouldn’t “turn him on.” So what I don’t get, is these porn videos are where wife’s have sex with other men while their husbands are there and they watch them have sex but he’s told me he wouldn’t like that? Well.. he clearly does if that’s his whole search history. What can I do to make my boyfriend feel more comfortable talking to me about these things? Is this your fantasy? How did you approach this to your partner?
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Perhaps he sees himself as the bull, not the cuck?
Sometimes things turn you on in fantasy but you wouldn’t want to actually do them for real. If your bf has told you he doesn’t want to try cuckolding; believe him.
Would he be open to doing one of those online test for matching kinks/fetishes? If he isnt interested in following with the cuckhold fantasy outside of porn I’d respect that and not push further.
I wouldn’t make any assumptions. People watch porn for lots of reasons, and it doesn’t necessarily follow that they have a fantasy where those events occur for them in reality. There’s no way of finding out what he’s into that doesn’t involve talking to him about what he’s in to.
Maybe he wants to be the one who does the cuckolding, not be the cuckold.
There is a lot of porn I like to watch and turns me on that I have absolutely no interest in trying in real life. Much like many fictional movies and shows I watch.
3 things.
1. Some fantasies are just that. Fantasy. It wouldn’t work in real life. I fantasize about a FMF threesome but I would never jeopardize my relationship with my wife to have one. It’s just a fantasy.
2. He’s imagining himself as the bull.
3. It’s not the clucking he’s into. It’s the slutiness.
I would do a couple’s quiz like [sexionnaire.com](https://sexionnaire.com) . Put down all the things you’re willing to do. See what pops up. It only shows matches.
Also keep in mind some things make great dirty talk, you don’t have to do them IRL.