Hi team, my situationship just texted me “hey, we are not dating but happy valentines day <3”. He’s 21 and I’m 20F btw. Anyway, how do I even reply to this? I like him, but this whole “we are not dating” and “what are we” situation makes me sad. I was also thinking of talking to him on thursday and, depending on how that goes, calling what we have off. What should I even respond?
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Happy Valentine’s Day too.
Hard to know the tone he had in mind of this without a boatload of context (and even then might misread it). I wouldn’t read too much into it. Can just respond ‘happy valentine <3’ or whatever.
It sounds like you are on the right general track though. If you want to be more than ‘not dating’ you need to nudge things in that direction and if he is not interested in being more you should call it off. If you want more but are mot getting it sticking around is just going to be increasingly difficult for you and make it harder to move on and make you less emotionally available for someone else you might run into that would want a relationship.
Tbh I would just not respond.
To be honest it doesn’t sound like he is interested in a long term relationship with you. If men were really interested they would be the ones pursuing more. You can remain friends but I wouldn’t dwell on him.
Answer: “It would only be a happy Valentine’s Day if we were dating.”
It’s his way of keeping you around while also reminding you not to read too much into it because he’s never going to love you the way you want him to. If you want more, then don’t torture yourself by staying in this situationship. I would end it if I were you. Be prepared for overly romantic appeals if he has no one else to fall back on.