(M21) There’s this (19)girl I met in college and we’ve spoken maybe 6 times now, but every conversation felt amazing and I found her to be so interesting and we have so much in common. She was even asking all these questions about me and my interests, just haven’t had someone seem that interested in actually getting to know the things I like. I’m also not the only one starting the conversations, it’s been 50/50 so far. I’ve never felt such a good vibe from someone in years, I learned so much about her already. Thing is, I wanna get to know her more.
I got her instagram from her, but when I texted her, she took about a day to respond to each message, and then after like 4 texts back and forth, she quit reading them completely. Yet she continued to hold good conversation skills with me in person.
Why does she like talking to me in person, but ignores me over text? Is she just playing nice, even though she willingly starts convos with me in person?
Should I even bother asking if she wants to go out with me anywhere?
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If you had all those talks with her; you should have ask her out for drinks/coffee and set up a date. Maybe she is just being friendly but you won’t know for sure until you ask her out. Make sure she knows you are interested. If she says no, then you know not to waste your time with her anymore. That’s all I can tell you.
Don’t text over Instagram, get her number and text her on her actual iPhone!
Has she suggested hanging out with you or going on a date? Maybe she’s not interested. Guys enjoy the chase, but so do girls. Don’t give up, but adjust your expectations.
She might just not be a fan of texting, or using her phone for communication. How about trying a phone call? If it goes well, then I think she is much more of the verbal type.
I would encourage you to be more direct. Women like a man who is assertive and knows what he wants. Leave no room for ambiguity, best of luck.