Often times I wait for the pause to talk, as I myself hate being interrupted in the middle of my talking. Yet this time is entirely different. I ask a single question and she’d answer with full-on supporting details. Then before I knew it, swiftly changes the topic before I could pour out my thoughts on the previous ones discussed.
But the most problematic thing is how I want to clarify the questions I ask. Till now I ask questions in chunks, later on progressively expanding the topic centered around the inquiry during some time someone I talk to continuously clarifies about it. This is not the case with her: I ask, she answers in paragraphs without the heed of clarification of the question, and before I have the chance to say that’s not what I am asking for, we changed topics immediately. What should I do?
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This doesn’t sound like a fun conversation.
Rather than trying to manage it, like a rider on a bucking bronco, ask yourself what you’re doing at this rodeo?
I have a friend who takes pauses in the **middle** of their sentences. It’s frustrating
You could just stop hanging out with them
Or you could interrupt mid-sentence, “sorry I don’t want to interrupt but…”
If you are close with them, you might consider having “the talk.” Don’t dump on them, just let them know, “sometimes I feel like I can’t have a good conversation with you because I can’t find a way to get my thoughts in. What should I do when I want to speak”
I’ve actually seen this **kinda work**, the friend is now somewhat aware and it also makes it a little easier to jump in, now they know I’m not being rude they’re just being very talky
I tell them. Simple as that. “Dude you’re talking so much I can barely place a word inbetween and then I get distracted and it’s difficult to follow along. Please leave some spaces so we can both answer and reply. I know you find it difficult, but please work on it because as it is right now, it’s not enjoyable for me.”