So I’ve been using a few dating apps the past year or so, with little to no luck so far. I researched the top dating apps for my age range and my area and been using them. I’m a straight 26 year old male. I don’t think I’m ugly or anything. I’m actually pretty confident in my physical appearance. Also, I’m not one of those assholes looking for hookups. Sex is actually the last thing on my mind when it comes to dating. I always fill out my profiles fully and make sure it’s clear my interests and what I’m looking for. I’m relatively smart, currently at a university going towards my degrees. And I have some pretty interesting stories to share. And pictures on my profiles that highlight these stories. I mean, I’ve got pictures on my profiles of me Skydiving, scuba diving, traveling the world – litteraly. And I make sure to highlight my passion for kindness.
But… I have yet to have a girl make the first move on any of the apps… I mean, hardly any views even. I mean, a few good conversations and one date so far has come from the countless girls I’ve liked on the apps. But that’s it.
Granted, I do live a pretty isolated place, but it’s not super small. I live in a small tourest/retirement town where my university is, and there’s a mid sized city just about 20 minutes away (about 80,000 population). As well as a number of other smaller towns around us. It’s not a hole bunch of people, but I’d expect more than no girls to be interested in me. I mean, there’s plenty of girls for me to swipe left or right on. But it seems none to swipe me…
I didn’t mean to sound cocky in describing myself and profile, I just wanted to highlight my posative self aspects shown on my profiles.
Now, I do understand that the male to female ratio on these apps are very uneven. And so the girls have a lot more to sort through. But I would expect at least a like or two for me and plenty more than the zero profile views.
Anyway… any idea what may be an issue with my profiles or a reason for my unpopularity on these apps?
Thank you.
4 comments
For women it’s all about the pictures first. Many women don’t even look at the rest. So make sure your pictures are on point. The women aren’t looking at the pictures to see your life story, they want to see if you are physically attractive. So demonstrate that over everything else.
If you’re not top 10% in male attractiveness, you’re probably going to have to always make the first move.
think about it bro. scuba diving, skydiving, world travel. what girl sees herself doing these things? you arent relatable. paint a picture of what you would be in everyday life. beaches, netflix, amusement parks, restaurants, local travel, etc.
We are talking about OLD and you are someone in your 20’s. I mean just scroll on any social media and you can see millions of likes on videos about being: #introvert #homebody #socialanxiety. People around our age are getting less and less socialized and less adventurous too. Most people haven’t done any of the scuba diving, sky diving, and traveling of the world that you’ve done. Due to not having the financial means,opportunity, or not having the want to. Maybe use more like “relatable” photos on your profile. Nice selfies- and then save all your experiences for the actual meat of the convos after you match.
Can women see your face clearly on your pictures? I know action shots can sometimes sway away from actually seeing your profile. Are the pictures good quality?