I’m 35, fit, tatted, work a great job, have my own place, and not too bad to look at if I may say lol.
I don’t know if I’m enjoying the dating scene in my age group. I’ve met a few girls at the gym who are early 20s but I’m always cautious because I never know if I’m too old to them.
How many years older would you go if you are into older guys?

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  2. Why do you think you’ll connect better with someone whose brain is literally still developing?

    The brain doesn’t reach full maturation until age 25 and there’s a significant gap in experiences and emotional regulation between someone 35 and someone in their early 20’s.

  4. Bro u posted this a few days ago, only difference is you were 45 in that one. What are you trying to achieve here?

  5. I’m 11 years older than my GF and her friend is 10 years younger than the guy she is talking to on hinge. They both say they dislike the lack of maturity in men their age.

  6. I feel like they like the daddy look. I mean my gay friends are into that so I feel like women would be too.

  7. I’m close to your age and we both know exactly how much more naive and easier to manipulate we were in our early 20’s. That’s why you don’t want to date in your age range.

  8. Women mature faster than men. It’s been measured in brain development. TheFrench has the age gap figured out. You can go as young as half your age plus 7. So at 35, you can date as young as 24. Me – 33.

  11. “Older guys” for the average girl is like, 2-4 years older when you’re in your 20s. Anything older is considered an age- gap couple and not as common.

  12. “Older guys” for the average girl is like, 2-4 years older when you’re in your 20s. Anything older is considered an age- gap couple and not as common.

  13. My partner is 8 years older than me and we’ve been together over 5.5 years and we’ve been on the same page since day one.

    If you find the right person age won’t matter But don’t think for a second you’re gonna change a 20 year old to be more like you. So you just have to look for the red flags as well as the green ones. Things you don’t like now – you really won’t like down the road.

    I dated a guy 10 years older then me in my earlier 20s and he was an old man. He was in bed super early everyday, woke up at the crack of dawn for no reason and was a collector of old things Lolol

    I seen these early in the relationship but I let it go because I thought he was just really tired all the time and then when we moved in together and lived together I realized how much I actually hated it. He was very strict to live with and I thought with time we would find middle ground – but he never budged. We never had any caffein in the house – no coffee or tea because it’s “bad” never did anything, never travelled or explored – I felt like a caged bird to be honest.

    But to him – he was successful and had a life routine and it worked for him. He was a healthy guy in all. But I just couldn’t do it at 20 years old. I wanted to travel and snowboard and have beers on the hill with friends and I could never do that.

    So you gotta find the person who compliments you and really pay attention to what they show you- more than what they tell you. Words are nothing without action. I believe what people show me now.

  16. Some do, others prefer guys the same age or younger.

    I’m only attracted to guys older than me. Date with a minimum 15 year age gap.

  17. I’m a 34m and have been dating a 23f for a year and it’s legit amazing. I’d highly recommend it.

  18. Definitely give it a shot. My best relationship was about 14 years difference when I was in my late thirties. The amount of compatibility was really over the top.

  20. As an older (38) guy that dated a few girls ~10yrs younger than me, I say let them show explicit interest in you otherwise it’s kind of weird. But that’s just like my opinion man

  22. You’re 35 and if you date women in their 20’s, it might work for now but not for the long haul. Someone in their early to mid 20’s is going through a transition. They’re going to become a diff person and want different things once they hit 30. They won’t love/like you the same in a matter of 5 years. You might not be as attractive in 5 year’s time as well. You might not even have the same vigor as you have now. Remember, men age as well!

  23. Most of us generally prefer someone who is mature and that typically comes with age. Ten years was my “older than me” limit.

  25. I’m 32 and when I was in my 20s I met a number of older guys. They all seemed way too out of my age range because of the age difference. Why are you trying to date such younger women ? I’m curious.

  27. The reality is the **most** of women do not find older men attractive as dates or partners.

    That said, there are some women who are attracted to older men and it’s a lot more common that most would like to admit. For some women it’s just sex or a kink they have, for others they are looking for a relationship.

    Honestly, I leave the younger women alone, and I usually advise against big age gaps. We’re in totally different life stages. She needs to build a life with someone younger. I’ve turned younger women, gently if I can and will continue to do so. I’ll Ghost and avoid, if I have to.

    I suggest you do the same

  29. No they don’t only reason they do is that older guys usually got more money and thats all they want

  30. I’m 34 and the number of girls in their early 20s who become really friendly with me is much higher than when I was in my early 20s.

  34. I personally always liked older men, normally around 8 years older but depends on person and person of interest

  36. I feel you bro, happens at 40 too, and you feel a pedo, but if she’s past 20 and for having fun, don’t trip

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