what does fuck me “hard but not fast” mean?

10 comments

1. Maybe she means deep with no jackhammering

2. If this becomes a regular thing, you’ll definitely want to talk with her in detail about how you both want your sex. It sounds like she really knows what she wants, and is more than willing to ask for it. This is a really, really good thing.

   For me “hard but not fast” means that she wants to feel the emotion, sensations and your basic masculinity in contact with her femininity. She wants to feel your strength, expressed slowly and tenderly. Long and slow thrusts, intense looking in the eyes (but don’t overdo it), very strong emotional contact. Speed often doesn’t give the body enough time to appreciate what’s happening. If you’re in great physical shape, you can do things like fucking standing up and no parts of her body touching the ground.

   Mood and spontaneity are probably things that you want to pay particular attention to. If the moment is right (eg while hiking in a secluded nook of the woods), you can have spontaneous and very intense sex.

3. Nudge fucking

4. Ask her.

   But my guess is it means deep fast thrusts but bigger pauses between the thrusts, also maybe pulling almost all the way out slowly before the next thrust.

5. As a woman, I think she means slow but deep, powerful thrusts 🤔

6. Lower frequency, higher amplitude.

7. She wants medium speed with a slight pause when you’re deep, fuck her with intent, feel her pussy as much as you can. doing it too fast reduces sensation for both of you. Pro tip is that if it feels good to you it usually feels good to her, vice versa. Jackhammering does not do anything at all for anyone.

8. My Gf likes it this way too, not just rapid fire but strong deep thrusts at a medium pace and keeping that rhythm going is really what gets her there.

9. Think *pressure*. Don’t jackhammer – keep your hips tight, move slowly, but push hard.

10. Pressure, like grinding hard and more pelvic contact, not faster jackhammering