If a woman introduces herself to you, should we give a hand shake or is that too masculine ? How should we proceed ?

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1. A hand shake is good for first meetings, man or woman.

2. Depends on your culture, in the western one its normal to shake a womans hand. (My experience ofc)

3. it’s clearly too masculine, men don’t like that.

   you should be giving people blowjobs instead, men like that.

4. Handshake is the only real acceptable choice. Yesterday a woman gave me a hug at work and it was kind of unusual. I wasn’t uncomfortable per se but it was surprising as I didn’t expect it. I would have preferred a handshake tho

5. I hug just about every woman unless it’s in a business setting. I might troll by giving her a handshake and then go for a hug afterwards. I’d say I’m hugging about 90% of the time.

6. A crisp high-5 is good enough for everyone

7. I always offer one when meeting someone regardless of gender.

   I’m always concerned that my massively tough masculinity will crush women since they are the weaker sex but so far none have imploded in my presence…

8. A handshake is polite. So if it’s fine, if you just intend to remain polite acquaintances, co-workers, etc.

   But it also works if you think you might want something romantic with her because it shows confidence and establishes a touch connection.

9. What’s the setting?

   I’ve done the handshake, I’ve dapped girls up, done a shit bow and I’ve kissed cheeks.

   The cheek kiss was with a family friend who I haven’t seen since I was a child, I would never do that to someone at the first meeting, however that felt like the first time I met her but she went in for it.

   Handshake for business

   Dapping for friends/new people in casual setting

   Bowing in a more than casual or business setting

10. Hand shake is fine just dont squeeze abd shake as hard as you would a lumberjack or a tradesman etc.

11. Wait for her lead. If she puts out a hand, shake it. If she doesn’t, don’t.

    https://www.gq.com/story/women-hand-shaking/amp

    > *What’s proper is for the woman to offer her hand first. If she does, then you shake it just as you’d shake a man’s.*

12. Context, culture, we need more information

13. I guess if she offers the handshake, accept it. If not, a waving hand is a good greeting sign.

14. She could offer a handshake, sure. Or just sit down on a chair nearby. Or whatever.

    We aren’t unicorns. Just say “hi” and you’re probably going to get the time of day.

15. I don’t do a firm handshake like I’m meeting a girls dad for the first time, but I’ll usually do a softer one with a little headshake.

    Dont know if that makes me weird or not, its just what i do (this is business setting)

    Casual settings I’ll actually do similar

16. Depends on the country

17. Handshake is always a great way.

    It’s also a good way to gauge the man, Death grips usually mean he’s got a macho insecurity

18. Usually I just wave with a little head nod and say hi unless they go in for a handshake then I shake hands. I do the same when being introduced to either men or women though.

19. Depends on the culture

20. I’d treat her like any other friend really.

21. Handshake can never be inappropriate

22. Poke her boob and say loudly, “boop”.

23. Definitely a handshake. It’s the generally accepted method of introducing yourself to strangers. I personally also like it because I’m not a hugger and a persons handshake is part of the first impression. A weak handshake definitely gives me a somewhat negative impression.

24. Didn’t covid end handshakes?

25. I hug women when they introduce themselves. Handshakes are for men and interviewers.

26. I like hand shakes. I was raised to give a firm handshake whenever you meet someone new to show that you respect them. It’s less personal than a hug, though. I hate when complete strangers try to hug women they meet but shake hands with guys.

27. Shaking is fine

28. Hand shakes are fine.

29. A handshake is the standard formal greeting.

    If we’re in a pub or something you can skip it and just say ‘hello’ like a normal person.

30. Hand shake, fist bump, a bow, whatever seems to fit.