I (24m) have a friend (24f) that I’ve recently got back into contact with. Things have been alright. She has a long term boyfriend. I was going to her house once a week. She seems to want to text me a lot. Almost everyday. But when I come over she’s completely quiet and he falls asleep practically when I talk to him. She has sent me pictures of herself nothing provocative. Sent me a valentines text. Talks about her issues with her boyfriend.
At no point do I believe she will leave him though. I suspect she is attracted to me but wants to keep me on the line while she stays with her boyfriend. I think I’m being used as an acting boyfriend when he’s distant with her. I’ve had to cancel some plans with them because of work and being sick. She cancelled on me within an hour of meeting because she supposedly had food poisoning and stress. Then the next week she didn’t even try to make plans to meet up. But she still told me the next day that we usually meet up that they went ahead and watched a show that we were planning on seeing together. I’ve been fuming about this and the treatment I’ve receive when I go over there.
I’m thinking of ending this relationship because this dynamic is toxic. It’s a shame because I’ve been without friends for years now. Any advice is appreciated.