Hooked up with this guy but was not prepared to and haven’t shaved anywhere in months. It was not looking good under my clothes. I had a full on bush it was not good. I tried to warn him and he still went for it anyways and I’m so embarrassed now. I almost wanna text him and be like this wouldn’t be a normal thing if I was seeing someone but im too embarrassed about it. Is there anything I can even do?
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Not every man wants your genitals to be clean-shaven. Some of us prefer it not to be.
How hairy was it?
You can text him that, but odds are if he was ok with going down on you despite you warning him, he knew what he was in for and it didn’t bug him at all.
My SO used to feel mortified when she left herself unshaved early in the relationship. She used to shave because she thought it was embarrassing to leave the bush for so long. I loved her with or without hair. Now she only shaves to make it easier on herself during her period.
Preferences differ according to each man, but you should probably breathe easy that he wasn’t likely affected by it.
What was wrong? I don’t understand the problem. If you want to trim then just do that. It sounds like you are more offended by your hair than anybody else is. Do you even care what his opinion is or are you just concerned what previous guys expectations are?
*disclaimer* I’m a guy that loves body hair. Full bush is great, trimmed is exquisite, shaved is smooth and soon to be prickly lol. I shave a leg and an arm for a tattoo. My wife is constantly worried about her leg hair but only because society has taught her to be. She has a trimmed bush because it’s a lot of work to maintain and she knows I love it no matter how long it is. Sometimes is grows long but I don’t shy away from diving in face first.
Don’t do anything. Next time prepare. It happens. Be easy on yourself. When you talk to him again, make a joke , you can say something like “yeah you caught me off guard, but next time I’ll be ready” that’ll clear up everything!
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So has he not called or what’s the issue? I’d say if you warned him and he was gas, you get what you get. 🤷🏻♀️Seriously, you may be overthinking this entirely. Sounds like he couldn’t have cared less.
Why are you embarrassed? It’s just hair
Nothing wrong with being natural. In today’s world of most ladies being shaved running into a full bush can be hot since it’s no longer the norm. I’m diving head first either way.
Many men either don’t care whether you have hair, or actually enjoy a full bush. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. It sounds like it didn’t bother him at all.
Most guys don’t care. If it is a game changer for him. You are better off.
53m. Not even something I would have thought about. Just happy to be in the ballpark. Don’t care how overgrown the field was.
Unless he was doing a lot of oral I don’t think he would have noticed a heck of a lot. We don’t really notice in doggy and even missionary it’s just at entry for the most part.
i mean, if he went for it anyway then does it matter? what is so bad about being hairy?? being clean shaved is a new trend lmao
Ask him if he liked it.
Just FYI for some guys that’s literally what they are looking for. On a first date I’m checking her body to see if shes a grower, like does she have nice forearm hair, anywhere else on her body like lower back or armpits or legs or anything. Fuuuucckkk if I caught sight of a treasure trail I’d probably cum in my pants right there in the restaurant. I’ve literally been crushed to take a girl’s pants off and find out she’s waxed. Why don’t you ask him what he likes?
It you told him before hand then I clearly doesn’t care, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Maybe he likes hairy? I know I do
A full on bush =/= not good. Many more people are into that or at worst don’t care than you would think. I’m sorry you couldn’t enjoy yourself and are feeling ashamed about the way your body looks, because it sounds like he didn’t mind at all and found you very attractive.
It honestly might help you to look up comments from female celebrities about their pubic hair. Many, many more of them are vocal about rocking untrimmed bushes than you would think. Gwyneth Paltrow and Ashley Graham are two I recall off the top of my head — both very beautiful and widely desired women.
You deserve to feel comfortable and enjoy sex & the way you look.
I wouldn’t worry about it honestly. Some guys love a bush. I know I’d ask you to keep it and not shave