I used to be so sensitive that sometimes when I touched my clit in a good way my legs would start to shake but I tried a clit sucking toy and when I used it for the first times I got this unbearable feeling of being overstimulated just like when you just came and keep touching, so I forced myself to resist the unbearable feeling of this toy to the point of where one day my clit stopped being sensitive, the toy would no longer make me feel that stressing pleasure, like I made myself very resistant to it and two years later I have not been able to go back to the same sensitivity, any ideas on how to regain it?
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Abstinence.
I know a few girls that have totally stopped using any kind of vibrator for this very reason.
Assuming you didn’t cause nerve damage (which may still heal to some extent), just give yourself a break. Leave your clit alone for a month…or three.
Conversely, see your physician. Ideally, a woman doctor.
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There is very little chance of nerve damage. Desensitization has much more to do with the brain than the nerves. You’ve trained your brain to expect the overstimulation, and it’s learned to compensate. (Think of building pain tolerance. It’s the same.)
It sounds like you’re experiencing a combination of desensitization and habituation to this one way of reaching orgasm.
Start with a reset. Let yourself get physically uncomfortable with the need to cum. Keep using erotica, porn, fantasy, etc. – whatever it is that keeps your mind in an aroused state. When you get to that needy state, try using just your fingers to reach orgasm for the relief.
Once you have a bit of a reset, try some other methods/toys to broaden your repertoire. This will deal with the habituation part. Who doesn’t like a buffet? Sure, we may have a favorite, but we still enjoy the variety.
Have you ever tried the opposite, which is edging? As soon as you get close to orgasm, stop. Wait a few moments and start again. Do this several times before allowing yourself to cum. You might find this builds the tension you’re looking for.
You may find that you’ll need a different clit sucking toy to recreate some of that feeling. And you should make sure it doesn’t become the only method again.
Look into a kink called forced orgasm. It may hold promise for you since it’s a sensation you enjoyed.
In the end, you may just be someone who requires strong vibrations. If so, the Doxy puts the Hitachi to shame.
Your clitoris is much larger than you might realize. Here’s a 3D image and information to explore. The entire site is a goldmine of education.
https://www.anatomyofpleasure.org/over-the-skin-what-you-can-see
Here’s some basic information on the myth of vibrators causing desensitization of the clit or vagina.
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/overusing-vibrator-sensitivity
Here’s some information on clitoral atrophy so you can understand what happens when the clitoris isn’t functioning properly.
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/overusing-vibrator-sensitivity
Hi there guys, I do masturbate with my hands since my clit toy was actually damaged, I do think that part of the problem is that I cannot stop masturbating at all, I still feel pleasure but not like before. Also vibrators never did a thing for me even when I used to be sensitive, just fingering my clit used to be enough to make myself shiver.
Manual with hands only works for me if I leave the suction vibe away for a few weeks. It desensitizes it and it takes away my ability to use my hands.