Hi, sorry if this is long but I need advice.
My gf of 4 months and 7 months of friendship has suddenly changed her behaviour and I’m not sure why. She has gone from calling me “honey” or “babe” to now not even my name most of the time. She used to reply within 2 minutes of me messaging but is now only responding after 59 minutes, just enough so that the conversation doesnt look one sided as I usually respond pretty fast. She has been avoiding going on dates until last week when we went out which I enjoyed but she was on her phone a lot of the time, and heres where my main issue lies.
Her ex best friend (18M) who she used to be in love with, recently got dumped by his GF who he had been cheating on, he is now trying to talk to her and she wants to be friends again. She was texting him for most of the time when we were on her date, the only time she didnt was when we were in a theatre with no reception. She responded instantly to him even though she hardly ever responds to me. I know for a fact he liked her because before i was dating her they made out at a party (he was still with his gf at the time). I know i might be being overly paranoid but its funny how he only tried to become friends again after he got dumped.
Yesterday, she was hanging out with who she said was her (female) best friend, and they were having drinks, I texted her that i was going to be busy with work to which i got no response. 3 hours later i get a call and she is drunk and is not with her female best friend, but with the guy instead, they are drunk together watching a movie. She then proceeded to hang up on me as soon as he started speaking and when i asked what was going on i still had no response.
She has said many times she would never cheat on me and wouldnt want to make me worry, but between her very sporadic and dry texts and her having her guy friend who she used to like over I cant help but doubt the sincerity of her words.
This is my first GF and i really want things to work out since i really love her a lot so does anyone know what I could do here to ask her whats going on, I really really dont want to break up with her.
!TL;DR, My GF has been getting more distant and I think it might be because of her guy best friend but I dont wanna be paranoid, any advice?
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It sounds like her guy friend is using her as a backup plan. He’s willing to cheat on his girlfriend with her and when he got dumped he wants to spend time with her. Hopefully she will realize he is not a good friend but if not then it’s not your fault.