A girl at gym has been talking to my bf and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking. Feel free to tell me if I’m overthinking or overreacting.
Posting it here because my social skills aren’t developed enough to understand this situation.
The conversation starts like this:
1. She: first time gym goer, didn’t know where to keep her stuff on first day. Asks my bf to show her where to keep her stuff.
Bf: shows her where to keep bags and shoes.
2. She: working out in front of bf, but struggling with equipment.
Bf: tells her to try easy equipment and easy classes first like dance.
She: Asks bf if he wont go to dance fitness?
She: comes to class after 1 week and tells bf that she didn’t come for 1 week because all this is very tough for her.
3. She: sees bf in dance and asks “you’re coming to dance”.
Bf: says yeahh.
She: says she finish her class.
Bf: says ok.
4. She: asks bf what his name is
He: bf says his name but doesn’t ask her name. They both go to seperate classes.
She: sees bf after class and asks “you wont ask my name?”. Bf asks and she says her name.
5. Mutual follow on Instagram. Bf says she followed first, but I don’t believe for some reason.
4. She: after class saw bf and said hii.
Bf: says he has another class and has to go.
She: says “but you just finished a class”.
Bf: yeah I booked another.
5. She: sees bf while leaving and says hi.
Bf: says hi
She: says she has class and says bye.
Bf: says bye.
This is all information I have for now. Though it seems like a friendly conversation, one part of me is like ummm. I don’t know how to interpret it.
4 comments
sounds like maybe she trusted him to help out a bit. it can be pretty daunting being a first time gym goer. and since he was friendly enough, she’s just trusted him to help and give advice.
i wouldn’t brush it off though. maybe tell your bf you’re uncomfortable with it, and set some boundaries. if he refuses to make you comfortable with the situation, then you might need to rethink the relationship as he’s not putting your feelings first and invalidating them. has he even told her he has a gf??
Yeah, statement #4 confirms it. She likes your boyfriend. I mean, probably a crush or something
Ok there’s something sus brewing here. Instagram exchange?? Wth I would be livid.
I suppose it depends over how long a period this was. If all these things happened over two months, that’s not too bad. Over two days? Very suspicious.
Another factor is: how do you know about all this? Were you standing next to him when it happened?
There’s also a thing that can be done where he says to her “Oh, I’ve finished now. I’m going to meet up with my girlfriend” Has he done that classic move?