Hello everyone! I don’t know how to start this or if this is the correct subreddit to post it but for my husband’s birthday gift he brought the idea of having a threesome with another woman either FFM or FMF, which I’m very open up about it since we both have that fantasy and I asked him if he could handle two thirsty women. He said yes, but tbh, I thought in the moment, he has low stamina while we are having sex and he falls asleep right after 1 round in less than 10 min of action. I’ve never had this issue with previous partners and he knows about it so he bought some men pills after we approached the situation but is still the same, so I started wondering if something is wrong with me? And why does he think he can handle two girls on the bed?. Also I asked him (out of curiosity and for my upcoming birthday as well) what if, we invite a man for a MFM threesome? After this question, he gave me a long silence and started laughing and changing the subject like refusing, while he was very pushy with the FFM/FMF idea. Your thoughts with this kind of situation and how to approach it again.
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What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. No threesome unless wifey gets her fantasy, too. And honestly it’s usually better in the fantasy.
That’s gonna be a no from me dawg.
If he brings it up again, tell him you found a guy to bring in for your birthday as well. However since he has a problem with his stamina you’ll likely spend most of your time with the new guy.
Play stupid games, you will win a stupid prize
It would be fine to do this one sided if you had no interest in MFM or MMF. I can see why he wouldn’t be comfortable with MMF, but if he isn’t even going to entertain MFM when that is an interest of yours and he’s pushing for FFM or FMF, then I would stop further conversations on it.
This is my thoughts on it, if he sees you having sex with a woman as okay but you having sex with another man as cheating, then he doesn’t consider that woman you would be inviting into your bed as a person. He sees her a sex toy. I wouldn’t trust that he could process the actual experience when it happened. He needs to acknowledge that a threesome means having sex with another person, it doesn’t matter the gender.
I think to be blunt he’s being selfish. He hasn’t put the thought into your pleasure or fantasies. I’m not saying that’s wrong but it’s not a recipe for success. I think feelings need to be discussed and find out the what, where and why. And sometimes fantasies are best left as fantasies. I think before anything happens there needs to be many conversations and scenarios talked about.
Do you want to have sex with another woman? If you do then do the threesome with a woman. Don’t even approach this again if you have to pull this bs of trying to get him to do something he isn’t comfortable with.
I wouldn’t agree to have double standards in the relationship and take 3 some’s off the table for both of you then.
Your husband doesn’t sound mature enough to handle this and you shouldn’t do it if you aren’t on board