My girlfriend of almost 2 years is going on a spring break trip with her girlfriends who are all recently turned single.. this trip is basically like any other spring break where the plan is to get drunk and party 90% of the time. I’ve always trusted my girlfriend but her friends are what worries me and all the alcohol and stuff that comes into play. Am I being insecure for feeling this way? Just feel like I would respect if she were to ask me not to not go on a boys trip with all my single friends because I care about her feelings and most importantly love her. Any advice would be helpful thanks everyone
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You’re 100% being insecure.
Whilst your insecurities are natural, you need to decide whether or not you actually trust your gf. Because if so, it doesn’t matter how single her friends are or how many people hit on her, she’s with you and that’s that. She’ll just turn them down.
Do not try to control your gf. That is toxic, unhealthy behaviour that makes for toxic relationships.
You are correct that alcohol can make her do things she would not do sober. This is especially true if her other friends will be gaving casual sex.
Do I need to add that if all of them will get completely drunk they could get advantage of or worse?
Now I would probably not want to be with someone going on things like that. Call it controlling, I would call it compatibility issue. As for you, ask yourself hiw much does it make you upset? If VERY upset, you can ask her to not go, but you should ask yourself what will you do should she refuse?
If you are willing to break up over this then absolutely do it, if not then there is no reason to ask her. It will only damage your relationship making her infidelity more likely.