So I’ve been with my partner now for 8 months, in the beginning we had a great sex life; we’d always both initiate equally and it would last for awhile with many different positions and things happening.
Since about 3 weeks now, when we have sex he has an orgasm within 3 minutes and doesn’t even care if I do. (Before he could last at least half an hour and made sure I was completely satisfied)
I obviously want to discuss this with him; but the problem is last time we had a sex talk and I told him what I like in bed etc; he got so insecure he couldn’t get hard for a whole month after.
At this point I’ve lost all interest in sex and this morning he told me he’s bothered I don’t initiate anymore.
How can I talk to him about this without triggering him so much he loses his ability to have sex all together?
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Oh this kind of problems are hard to solve. People feel really insecure when you talk about their sexual problems. But you are totally right, of cause you loose interest in sex if he doesnt statisfy you. Its like going to cinema but only he gets a seat and you have to wait outside. Thats frustrating!
I havent found a good solution to this, a persons sexuality is very hard to change or talk about. But the fact that he doesnt even care if you orgasm is very strange. Its hard to discuss this kind of problem if he doesnt even care if you orgasm.
But you need to express your thoughts and problems, you cant hold back just because you are afraid of him getting no hardon anymore. You get no orgasms anymore, thats even worse!