At what age did you realize you truly stopped caring about what people thought about you and your choices? Also, what do you think contributes to getting there?

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1. It was probably around 22. For me, it was just the realization that people are going to talk negatively about me no matter what I do or don’t do. Trying to please them only briefly puts off the eventual gossip and hate they’ll throw my way. We’re all better off having tunnel vision.

2. I think about a year after college you have a pretty clear vision of who you are (or at least an idea). Some of my friends are judgmental and I used to let it get to me, but once you’re comfortable with who you are, nothing will get to you (and they’re probably just jealous anyways!).

   I also think there is a correlation in life experience and not gaf what others think, especially bc the older you get the more you realize what is really important in life.

3. 35. I just, woke up.

4. Somewhere around 15. I’ve played a sport my whole life so you have to be able to tune out all of the outside noise from people.

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6. By like 12? I’ve very much chosen by life path and values system since being a pre-teen/teenager. I’m still so thankful to that courageous girl.

7. For me it was 22. By far the toughest year of my life. I lost 3 people in 7 months and because of that I got a very good understanding of who my real friends were. I decided during that time that I didn’t want somebody in my life if they were only willing to be there when it was easy/my life was happy. Part of that was realizing that I would only form genuine friendships/relationships if I stopped caring what people thought. Essentially, I’d rather somebody hate me for who I am instead of love me for somebody that I’m not 🤷🏼‍♀️