How does your partner change your thoughts or decision on having a kid, even if you never wanted kids?

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1. They can’t. I tell men, on or before the first date, that I won’t be birthing no babies. Non-negotiable. Trying to change my mind will only get them dumped. It’s disrespectful.

2. They don’t, if they’re decent and respectful, and know you don’t want kids, they shouldn’t try to make you change your mind.

3. They shouldn’t. They should respect your decision and if they don’t agree then you shouldn’t be together. I’m dead set that I don’t want any more kids. I think my bf would be ok with it but I don’t want more. He’s never tried to change my mind it push anything on me. Another I dated would make comments about holding his niece and getting “baby fever”. He knew I didn’t want more kids. I noped out of that quickly after the second comment in a month.

4. You don’t change each others mind, you respect it and part with differences if need be

5. They shouldn’t though. This is one of the topics couples should sit down and determine either early on in the relationship or when you realize that you two are getting serious. If both parties agree on one decision, then move forward in the relationship. If one of you disagrees, then you need to determine if you wanna continue. If during the relationship one of you changes your mind, then again sit down and talk about it

6. I never wanted kids until I met my husband. I told him upfront on the first date that I didn’t want kids, but my mind changed after a few months. It changed because I could see he was actually a partner and would take on his fair share of child raising. I realised I wasn’t really childfree per se, more against being the sole caretaker with a husband who did very little. And I realised that he and I would be better parents than my own so my other reason to not want them (my bad relationship with my own parents) didn’t apply.

   I still don’t think you should enter a relationship with the hopes of someone’s mind changing though. Many people do change their mind in their mid to late twenties, but many people don’t.