Me and this girl have been talking for a few weeks and we’re really hitting it off! Well the other night we started talking about some hot and heavy things and she let slip that she likes to be choked, light slapping, and overall just some rougher sex. That being said, I was mortified and horny at the same time. I have never done anything like that with anyone before but I want to get into it with her. Does anyone have any tips/advice?
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Go slow and communicate with each other
A couples quiz like sexionnaire.com
Tell her to fill out the things she’s interested in. You let her know you’ll fill out the things you’re willing to explore.
> she likes to be choked
> any tips/advice?
Yeah. Be extremely careful with breath play. There’s no safe way to choke someone where you’re literally choking them. How people work with this is by “[not actually choking but simulating it](https://www.straight.com/life/986016/savage-love-heed-proper-etiquette-whilst-choking-someone)”
Breath play is extremely dangerous. The risk of injury or death is very real and you don’t want to be on the giving end of that exchange. As far as other kinks, just talk it out before, have fun experimenting, then talk after about what you both loved and didn’t.
Don’t go from 0/100 take things slow and make sure to communicate as you go. Choking can be very dangerous make sure to do some light research on how to safely go about it. One trick I’ve learned is that instead of putting pressure on the front part of her throat, you wanna focus more on the sides more of the area your fingers are. Honestly just communicate ask her if it feels good, start with softer slaps and usually you can tell if she’s enjoying it by her reactions.