So I’ve been dating this guy for a month and I do have a prior history with him. When we were younger, we used to hangout and talk all the time but either the timing was off or he was never serious about a relationship. Prior to this, the last time we had talked was about 7 years ago and now we are both adults (he’s in his 30’s and I’m 28). The first 2 weeks were great but then we got into an argument and he became closed off and refused to share anything “deep.” It seemed like the conversation became surface level and I basically told him I wasn’t going to deal with this behavior like I did when we were kids. I told him I was done and he called me and we talked. Before this, he said he didn’t like phone calls and that he wouldn’t call me and that wouldn’t change. Then he actually called me and told me about past relationship trauma/childhood trauma and he fears falling in love because his first ex really messed him up. He said I was right and that he was being an asshole and I felt like we made a breakthrough. One of the issues I have with him is that prior to this conversation I felt like I was the one initiating plans and it made me feel unwanted. I haven’t seen him in a week (he was on a weekend trip) but he hasn’t even brought up hanging out. Can anyone tell me if he’s being genuine? Other men have said that men like to have a “backburner” list when they seek attention. I just want to make sure this is not the case here. He also always texts me good morning/good night and we text throughout the day everyday, so I am just confused.
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Just know this, if a guy is into you, he is trying to see you in person as much as possible. He will constantly try to schedule time to see you. Low effort=low interest. All that nonsense about backburner is meaningless. Just take his efforts into account and if he is not making thar effort, you should put your attention elsewhere.