Since my (M34) divorce a few years ago, the advise I got was to be friends before dating. I understand this, and it sounds like it would be a great way to build a solid relationship. In theory it sounds great, but in practice all it has led to is pain. Either she see’s me as a friend and doesn’t want anything more, or she gets into a relationship really quickly. Does anyone else have any experience with this?
These are genuine friendships in which I have started developing feelings for the person after a while, so it’s not like I had intentions of asking for a romantic relationship from the beginning.
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The thing about being friends first is that it can be really difficult to change the whole dynamic of creating a romantic interest after a woman has logically put you in the ‘friend category’