I recently started expressing my feelings unapologetically in romantic situations. Even if someone did me wrong but I missed them afterwards for an example. Recently I had a guy I used to be involved with come visit me coz I moved to another country. He crossed some of my boundaries and I had to ask him to leave my apartment on day 5. (He came for 10 days). After he left we had no contact. On his last day, I send him a msg, how i was heartbroken after I kicked him out and how I never expected that much chaos. I told him I missed him and wished him a safe flight. Even though he did me wrong.
I realised that if I feel something its there for a reason and if it not expressed im the only one that suffers. Im tired of having “dignity”, saving face, bla bla. There is nothing more beautiful and liberating than saying how you feel without caring about being judged or seen as pathetic. Of course I word it in a way where I dont expect anything, like im not fishing for a reply. Thoughts on this? Thank you
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Unless this is an ESL issue, you appear (to me) to be sending multiple mixed messages.
That’s some toxic mind game shit you’re pulling. What you’re doing is being self serving to relieve some guilt while processing the loss.
When you have asserted your boundaries and ask him to leave based on violating them you stand fast.
It’s all good to come to terms with your feelings and be self accepting of them, it’s another thing to project them on to others.
Just my 2 cents.
I want a girl friend
>He crossed some of my boundaries
I can’t help you without the full story, mam.
I want a girl friend