What can I do to improve my handjobs?

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1. Use your mouth

2. LOTS of lube, firm grasp and use the other hand for massaging the balls

3. Try some gel.

4. Both hands is great because the more of the shaft you embrace, the better. Lube is terrific; some women just use spit. If you use your mouth, tongue action under the tip is both minimal fir you and most effective for him, so you can do as much or as little as you’re comfortable with.

5. HJs are tricky. Most women don’t do it as well as a guy. (The girl who played sax was my exception).

   However, there are things you can do that he can’t. Dirty talk, kissing, butt stuff (if that’s his thing). Find his cheat code.

6. 1. The secret sexual super power is … words. Asking someone what they like and doing it is the fastest and best way to get someone off. And keep asking, “do you like this”, “faster or slower”, “tell me how you like it” etc.
   2. You’re bringing in assumptions and that’s always dangerous. You’re assuming that the goal of a hand job is to make him cum and that’s what he wants. Almost all sex disasters happen because one person comes in with a bunch of assumptions about how things should go and pushes forwards towards it.

   Imo it’s much better to focus on eroticism rather than goals and outcomes. The best handjob is the one which feels the best, which feels relaxed, joyful, playful, nice, warm etc. Whether someone cums or not is irrelevant.

   Just relax and have a good time and be flexible and fun. Once you have those vibes it’s really hard to go wrong.

7. A little more focus on the tip. And a little ball play should do it.

8. Get him to show you how he masturbatory and then guide your hand

9. Your technique might not be an issue. You can ask him how he does it, and replicate that. That might work, or it might not. It doesn’t work for me. When I’m alone, no lube, firm grip, and it only takes a minute or so. If I try using lube alone, it doesn’t do anything for me. When a partner gives me the firm dry grip, it doesn’t work. I mean it works in that it’s enjoyable, but won’t likely make me cum. When she uses lube, it’s much better, but might not get me there alone.

   Visual stimulation helps. A lot. If you’ve already had sex, and are comfortable being nude around him, be nude. Try a position that gives him a great view while you’re doing it.

   Also, don’t be grossed out by cum. If you clinically try to catch it in a tissue, or run to the bathroom to wash your hands immediately after, or otherwise appear to be grossed out by it he’ll notice, and it will make him hold back. If you have him cum on you, that’s a plus. At least don’t actively avoid getting it on you.

10. Slow down.