My bf and I have been dating for a year and we like to explore many different things sexually. Recently, he’s really been wanting to gag me and have me deep throat him. My gag reflex is semi prominent. He’s not HUGE. But not small. So it’s more on the doable side.
I want to be able to do this. We’ve tried all the positions and found what works best. I can get it pretty far down there but just for a second.
He held me down (I said yes) and went as far as he could and held it.
My ISSUE is that in my moment of panic, illy instinct is to bite because that’s the only part of my body I have control of in the moment. And obviously we DONT want this.
How can I get over this fear/be able to take it longer and NOT bite my man in that moment of panic?
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Basically practice. If you seriously think you might bite him, in the beginning you can practice on something else.
I would suggest starting with you in control, so he’s not pushing your head down yet, so you can control when you need a breath, because honestly if I was being held down my panic reflex would be to bite too lol. The more you deepthroat and gag, the less panicy you will get, and the better you will be able to do it
Wrap your lips around your teeth. That way the bite won’t hurt that badly.
Also, you can try to dull your gag reflex over a longer period of time using fingers, a toothbrush or a dildo.
[Healthline](https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-get-rid-of-gag-reflex#desensitizing) gives this advice:
>**How to desensitize your gag reflex**
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>You can reduce or eliminate your gag reflex by gradually getting your soft palate accustomed to being touched. One technique is to use a toothbrush on your tongue:
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>1. Using a soft toothbrush to brush your tongue until you reach the area that makes you feel like you might gag. If you gag, you have brushed too far.
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>2. For about 15 seconds, brush that area.
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>3. Repeat the process once a day until you no longer feel the urge to gag begin. That area has been desensitized.
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>4. Then move the brush slightly further back ¼ to ½ inch and repeat the process, moving the brush further and further back until you come to your tongue’s farthest visual point.
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>Desensitization, which usually takes about a month, is a longer-term solution that’s helpful for people with gagging issues. It can help you become accustomed to gagging triggers such as new dentures that extend into the palate, medical throat swabbing, dentistry, or oral sex.
Just in case you decide you don’t like forcing yourself not to gag, know this: there is so much bliss in oral sex that you definitely do not need to deep throat if you don’t want to. I would hate to think that women feel they need to do this. There is so much else to do! I don’t want any part of intimacy where my partner isn’t loving it the whole time.
Safe move. Tap him with your hand and that’s when he needs to release. That’s what you were asking wasn’t it?