Asexual? Flexible asexual? Confused?
I’m a mid 30s 95% straight dude who hasn’t had sex In almost a year. Thinking about it now, and I’m not all on fire about just having sex anymore. The last couple times I’ve had sex, it was just so mentally pressuring for me to “perform” and finish. I wouldn’t turn down receiving oral, but I’ve never been a fan of giving oral.
I find I’m much more interested and turned on with just physical touch, kissing, making out, wandering hands, light hair pulling.. that sorta thing.
My question is.. Is that somewhere on the Asexual spectrum? I’m just trying to figure out how to word it correctly in conversations online and otherwise.
Thanks! (Let me know if you’re interested? lol)
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Sounds like if you could take the pressure off of yourself during sex to “perform,” you would enjoy it.
I’m in the same boat as you. 23M. It’s okay to have other priorities in life than sex. Sounds like we both put a lot of pressure on ourselves to perform and it ruins the enjoyment. Meanwhile, cuddling and wandering hands, we have much less pressure to perform and thus and enjoy it way more. I’d take a few hours of cuddles over sex any day.
I’ve given up on labels. I don’t think I’m asexual, I just go with the flow and try not to worry about labels, they are dumb and we don’t need to fit neatly into labels anyway.