I love my boyfriend but he has a much higher sex drive than i do. When i went off of birth control, the novelty and excitement of going to the store after work to get condoms and picking out like the kind really got me excited in the mood just like when i just met him. I really miss that time and i wonder how i could get that novelty back. It was super fun to match his energy for once.

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  2. I suspect your bc was suppressing your libido. It’s sadly common.

    Have you and your partner do a yes, no, maybe list. Then compare. Work your way through everything that overlaps. I suggest regularly reviewing and redoing the lists as well.

  3. try out something new and fun! maybe get some oil and put a towel down and do a naked massage, or experiment with role play or something like that. maybe go to a sex shop together and just look around thinking of what you could do with each other. Luckily with sex, there will almost always be something new you can try

  5. There are lists for keeping novelty in a relationship, however I believe its best to make a big list of things you both like and want, chop the list up or enter it in a random generator app and have the list randomly generate things for you to do ir draw from a bowl and keep adding new things secretly to the bowl or list.The can range from telling your partner what they do well or why you love them etc, to sex acts, new sex acts, old favourite sex acts, role plays, striptease, partnered orgasmic massage, partnered orgasmic meditation, date nights, sex toy shopping, sex dice, sex roulette, question games, truth or dare etc. The key is though, intimacy needs to be regular and consistent, but the type of intimacy is best served with variation for novelty.

  6. Sit down for three minutes and ask yourself “next time I have sex, how do I want it to be?”

    Think of what it takes to make it happen. Perhaps daydream for a while about doing it.

    There. That’s kind of the same thing, isn’t it?

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