so basically yesterday i went clubbing with my best friend. we spent the whole night skipping from one to another just for some drinks and wanting to enjoy my time with him. i also told him i wanted to meet new people and possibly try to get new friends. he was very fine with it and actually said it was an excellent idea and wanted that too(we’re pretty lonely..basically we’re the only friends we have).
so i tried to walk up to some girls/boys and break the ice and from there hopefully get in the flow of a casual conversation(i’m pretty confident in breaking ice with strangers and i know how to do it..but i don’t know to continue a conversation….i think this is very trivial tho..convos just automatically continue when you start so…)
problem is everybody wanted to just go away in a very polite and respectful way but it almost seemed like we annoyed just wanting to talk to them and wanted to be by their own. it threw me off how everybody i tried to break ice with eventually after some casual talk they just ended up saying: “anyway…it was so nice to meet you but it’s getting late and we have to go”
am i just not good enough socially or it’s just other people they just want to be by their own?
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Maybe youre trying to get too deep in conversation m for the setting. I know from the vacation I’m on now that exchanges with girls at the club need to be to the point if you’re trying to do something. If you’re just trying to be friends then maybe try to keep it short and move onto the next. If they have a lull in the night maybe theyll bump into you again. You could probably get some slow progress if you bump into the same people another night somewhere. Maybe they need a wingman or the people theyre meeting are late and theyll want to pass some time with you.
Social rules and habits are quite different depending on where you live or even age. Generally talking most groups are not the best option to go for, i.e. they might be old friends hanging out first time in a while wanting to spend some time together etc.
There is lot of people alone or not currently talking to anyone. Include those people, not the ones already busy with others and you will have more success to get to know them.