She barely reacts while I’m going down on her and I’m kind of confused about it.

I’m able to find her clit but it’s a bit different than most girls I’ve been with, it’s very small and you can barely see or feel it and there’s not much of a visible hood.

Either way, just seems even licking the clit directly just isn’t getting much of a reaction, maybe just small or barely audible moans.

She goes wild when I finger her and touch her G spot or while being fucked.

What could I be doing wrong? I’ve tried talking to her but she’s not really able to explain or say what’s going on. We’ve only had sex a few times so I’m still getting to know her.

I don’t have that much experience eating pussy, but seems other girls were much more sensitive.

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  4. Not everyone experiences sex the same way mabye her external body parts are not that sensitive
    Anyway try more foreplay and try new stuff out

  5. i think she just likes pussy play better, but yea finger her while you lick,

    my girl likes it when i stick my tongue deep too

  6. Have you tried asking what feels the best as you demonstrate? Not every girl likes the same techniques. Also some girls clits do enlarge as they get hornier, so maybe try other ways to get her horny and maybe she will enjoy it better.

  7. She sounds like me. Not everyone gets something out of oral

    I way prefer being fingered

    My clit is tiny and heavily hooded. See how she reacts to a vibrator on the clit while you finger her. Also see if she like soft touches all over down there instead of fast hard flicking with your tongue

  9. It seems like you have it halfway figured out with the fingers. Perhaps ask if she’d rather have you suck on nipples while fingering?

  10. Seems like the problem is you’re going down when you should be finger banging her. Hope this helps

  11. My wife loves giving oral, but doesn’t care much about receiving. She only gets clitoral enjoyment with heavy stimulation like a vibrator. But she loves having her g-spot stimulated by my fingers or good ole piv.

  12. Some ladies prefer oral. Some ladies prefer other things. Go with whatever works for your lady.

  15. She might like light sucking.

    Another way to try to find out what she likes (without any jaw pain) is to use your fingers on her clit while making out. You should be able to find out if she likes direct clit stimulation, clockwise or counter-clockwise rubbing, really slow strokes from just below the clit to the top of the hood, having her clit “fuck” the slit between two fingers held together, etc.

  17. Typical smaller clits are more sensitive because the same amount of nerves are packed into a smaller area. Try sucking the area if she has a small clit. Use your whole mouth to create suction and isolate her clit with your upper lip and tongue. You can keep your head still while sucking on her clit, or maintain suction while moving your head in and out (my favorite technique). Suction increases vasodilation which brings more blood flow and increases pleasure dramatically. Be gentle unless she wants something more. Let me know if this works.

  18. So a couple things I have learned that can give different stimulation when trying to figure out what someone likes.

    1. With your tounge draw each letter of the alphabet (if you want you can do it more than once alternating between all caps and lowercase). Certain letters may be more pleasing for her and gives you a general sense of the motion she likes.

    2. You can apply a gentle ammount of suction with your mouth which will reveal the clit from the hood typically as well as engorged it a bit due to the suction. Then I’ll push my tounge against the clit so the top of my tounge glide across the clit (lors of bumps so lots of feel)

    3. This one’s a but weird and requires you to be comfortable with it but humming can create a little bit of vibration while you go down on her which as I understand it is always a nice feeling.

    There’s also fingering her while going down on her, multiple stimulations at the same time can certainly work. You can also stick your tounge in her, which if you have a long tounge can be really nice.

  20. Every woman is different. In my limited experience, most women love oral and cum from clit stimulation. But a few are the opposite, they get off vaginally and are meh about the clit. It kinda baffled me too the first time I ran into that.

    You’re already getting all the feedback you need, but the best thing would be to simply ask her what she likes and what you could do differently.

  21. Give it time. She might not be into it. That’s not you, it’s her. She likes fingering and if you know how to massage her gspot just the way she likes it…. Look out. 🙂

  22. Anyone telling you to do letters or some tip flicking crap with your tongue has never orally pleased a woman no matter what they say or how their girlfriends may have faked it. Use a flat wide tongue, even pressure rubbing motions. Leave the alphabet bs to the movies and fake pornos

  23. One possibility is that she is just uncomfortable with oral. It’s a very different dynamic during oral than the more face to face feelings of fingering or sex.

    Any chance she has little to no inner labia? I have none and also have a smaller, harder to find clit and oral is a bit harder for partners to figure out. I have asked my husband what he did differently to make it way better, he just says he had to expand his focus area.

  24. > it’s very small and you can barely see or feel it and there’s not much of a visible hood.

    > She goes wild when I finger her and touch her G spot or while being fucked.

    The first girl I ever got naked had a clit that was completely hidden by the clitoral hood and she had to use her hands to reveal it. She also told me she didn’t like oral, but she liked when I fingered her and told me she liked PiV.

    My hypothesis is that for some women the internal body of the clitoris is just more sensitive than the external glans. Think of how much variation there is in penis size, labia shape, and breast size. I wouldn’t be surprised if there is also similar variation on the internal anatomy of the clit.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris

    Look at the first image if you haven’t seen a diagram of the full clitoris.

    While most women respond to stimulation of the external glans, a less sensitive glans and more sensitive corpus cavernosum (the wings) could result in that woman responding to vaginal stimulation more than clitoral.

    > What could I be doing wrong?

    You’re putting too much pressure on yourself to get her off the ONE TRUE WAY to the point where it becomes about your skill instead of her satisfaction. Just like guys who think PiV should be enough for every woman and if she doesn’t cum from PiV it’s either his lack of skill or her body not cooperating.

    If you like eating pussy so much that you want a girl who gets off on oral, that’s fine. There’s no shortage of woman who want to get eaten out. Doesn’t mean this girl will be one of them.

    If you just want her to be satisfied, then talk to her, she might already be getting off. And you can explore mixing different forms of stimulation and trying things out, but don’t beat yourself up.

    Beat her walls instead.

  25. Every single woman is different. My fiance doesn’t really like the pressure of my entire mouth on her clit but when I lightly brush my tongue up and down her clit and then a circular motion or a figure eight it drives her insane. Now that was fingering I can usually make her come in a matter of like 2 minutes. Try different things and be open with her. Ask her if it feels good. Ask her if she likes it. Have her guide you

  26. Ask her, I’m a female and I hate oral sex. My partner says every girl he has been with preferred it over PiV sex. Maybe it’s that, maybe she likes a particular thing, she’s gonna have to tell you if she can.

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