Americans who have used dating apps to find your significant other, how was your experiences like?

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  5. not an app but i did meet my wife on okcupid before match.com bought it.

    we’ve been married over a decade. 🤷‍♂️

    current dating apps sound pretty awful. bot filled dens of catfishery. 😂

  6. Pretty good. I dated 3 amazing women seriously from dating apps. The 1st GF was the best bar trivia partner I ever had, the next GF led to some much personal growth, and my now fiancée gels with me in ways I never knew I needed.

  8. I met a girl on okcupid, we dated for like 3.5 years, lived together for two. She was great but I dunno, things just fizzled out for me I guess. It was a very hard decision to break up. I still think about her a lot.

  9. Tinder is less popular here now than it is in Europe, most people have switched to Hinge and Bumble. I guess older people use POF and Okcupid. Tinder is such a zoo here. I use it when I travel to Europe, but it’s all scammers and cheating spouses in America

    Id like to see statistics, but I would guess online dating is more popular in Europe because of the stigma behind talking to strangers

  10. Great for casual dating or even a FWB situation but didn’t have tons of luck finding a solid match.

    I met my wife through mutual friends.

  13. Datings apps fuckin suck now. Tinder and other hookup-oriented apps are full of scammers and escorts even if they have a verified badge. All the “good” apps like Hinge and Bumble hide all of the things that make those apps effective behind extortionate paywalls. You have a limited amount of swipes on the free tier. Every decent-looking woman gets tons of matches so they have their pick of the litter and thus demand every man convince her they are worth her time. That’s not a bad thing, but it just means that with limited swipes guys have to swipe hundreds of times just to get one match. it’s a crap shoot.

  14. I met my now husband on OkayCupid. It uses a variation of the Myers-Briggs personality test, which then uses that data and breaks down your compatibility into different categories that are often deal breakers/sensitive topics (religion, politics, finances, ethics, etc.), represented by a %. A higher % in a category means better compatibility based on your answers.

    We talked for about a week on the app. Then later met for coffee after work and didn’t leave the coffee shop until 2AM the next morning. We dated for 2 years and have been married for 5 years (together for a total of 7 years so far).

    Overall I thought it was great and a different approach to online dating.

  18. Very good. I’ve used match.com. First tried it when I moved to Pittsburgh in 2002. Got a number of good responses from a bunch of women. Went out with two. Clicked with the second and we dated for five years until I moved away. Got out to California and meet a couple of nice ladies out there. Good times, but nothing long term.

    Moved to New Jersey after three years.

    I got a lot of responses and emailed a few. The first woman I met here and I hit it off. We’re still together 12 years later.

    One of the things that really seemed to help get responses was when I modified my description to tell a funny story about past rather than a laundry list of what I was looking for in a woman. When I did that, I got more women contacting me.

  19. I’ve really enjoyed dating apps, I used tinder when it first came out and have used bumble the last few years. Been on a few dozen dates, 7 or so that have lead to multiples and 3 that have been serious relationships. Each of them have been overall positive in my life and really digging my current gf.

  20. I was never really the dating type, but I started to get a little lonely, so I signed up for OkCupid. Within about 4 months I had met someone, and we’ve now been married for about 8 years.

    10/10, would use again (hopefully won’t have to).

  21. Tinder was a joke. I used Coffee Meets Bagel for several months–had some really nice dates and met some great people, including my current partner. We’ve been happy together for four years. I think dating apps are great if you have a busy schedule and a sleepy social life.

  22. It worked really well in college. The limiting factor on how many dates or “dates” I could get was how much work I wanted to put in sending messages. Tinder and Snapchat were basically part time jobs for me for a bit. I met one girl I really liked on an app and dated her for a year. It didn’t work out. Overall I got more dates on apps than otherwise.

    Now at 24 it’s a bit tougher. The market is smaller, I have no clue how to connect to a lot of women on there anymore. In college I felt like we were all kinda on the same boat, now I match with all sorts of people. I keep my lower age limit at 22 to maintain my sanity, but otherwise my matches are all over the age, experience, and socioeconomic spectra. And there are fewer of them which makes it more frustrating that 99% don’t respond to the first message, which is a constant.

    Overall, I keep having reason to regret that I didn’t find my person in college. Dating as an adult blows and is no fun, apps or no apps, everyone is depressed and overworked and jaded.

  23. I was pretty much married by the time Tinder became a thing but I used online dating sites to casually date for years in my 20’s.

    My experience was great. I wasn’t looking for anything serious and went out with a lot of really great women. I had a couple of funny stories but only one real horror story.

    If you’re looking for advice on a profile I’d highly recommend distinguishing yourself with your pictures. Don’t just write “my hobbies include cooking, play sports, and reading”. Have a friend take action shots of you making your favorite meal, standing in the batters box while you wait for a pitch, and sitting in deep contemplation while you read a porno mag. Most guys just have a handful of deer in headlight photos on those sites/apps. Having photos of you doing things – particularly if they’re funny – will set you apart.

  24. Horrible. Totally worth skipping the apps imo. They’re designed to make people feel crap about themselves and generate profit, not with the interest of pairing up people, leading to people on the dating apps not being sure of what they want or are inundated with so much choice nothing seems good enough. I myself was guilty of this. Went on perhaps 2-3 dates a week last year for the entire year. Liked non of them once I met them in person, or something would come up later on as we were dating that really turned me off from them. Ended up finding my girlfriend in class and its been rock solid.

    TLDR: Ditch the apps.

  25. My experience was fine (used Hinge), went on a lot of first dates, some second dates. Had some one night stands. Etc.

    But I did find my girlfriend! We’ve been together for almost three years now

  28. I briefly dated a person from an app who ultimately set me up with my now-spouse, so I’d say it went pretty well.

  29. Before I left my religion, I ran into an acquaintance from college on Catholic match. We went out for a while, but ultimately she broke up with me. She said she wanted to focus on her career, and knowing her I think she was being sincere.

    Prior to that, I didn’t have much luck. I got one date with one person, and it didn’t seem like she was that interested.

  30. I got a lot of dates through Match, a few short term relationships, a few longer ones, and finally, I met my wife through the app.

    Oddly enough, because I lived within sight of the Canadian border, I extended my searches over there, and actually had a lot more success dating Canadian women. Also, how I found my wife.

  31. Surprisingly a few of them were really good potential partners. Then I decided I wasn’t ready and stopped. Very few were annoying and disgusting. I just ignored them and moved on. I used OkCupid and Tinder. Surprisingly I yielded some good results from Tinder despite bad reviews from other people.

  32. I’ve had the most success with Hinge. I met my fiancée on that app in 2020, and we’re getting married in September 2023.

  33. I met my wife via bumble. It was uncharacteristically easy. We were each other’s first date after long toxic relationships. We fell in love pretty quick and it’s been great since.

  34. Terrible. I am now married to my worst nightmare. I have however heard of wonderfully blissful connections

  35. Dang there are so many success stories off this subreddit. To those who have success, what advices would you give to guys struggling to get dates on apps? I do not too bad but I feel there is a lot of mistakes that can be avoided if more people knew what is going to come up. I’d like to give my takes as well but I want to hear what others have to say 🙂

  37. I met my wife on Eharmony. The sign up process was a lot more work than I expected it to be. There were tons of questions but several of them were similar to previous questions. I assume this was to see if you were being consistent. I was on the app for a few months and was ready to quit it when I matched with my wife.

    We really a great match for each other. Not sure if that’s the website or just dumbluck. Been married 15 years now.

  38. Matched with a lady on Tinder and Bumble on the same day. Been married for 3 years now. 10/10 would do again.

  39. I last used dating apps of any kind almost 9 years ago, as that is when I started dating the girl who is now my wife (we did not meet online), so my dating experiences may be way outdated now, especially as the online dating world has evidently changed a LOT since then. But in any case, I primarily used Tinder and OKCupid, and had an account with Zoosk that I barely used. My experience was overall mixed: several bad experiences, but also several good ones.

    While I did not form any committed, exclusive relationships with people I met on these apps, I did get close twice. The first was a girl I met on Tinder, with whom I had gone on a few dates with, got along very well, and we ended up having a lot of genuine feelings for each other (even nearly falling in love); unfortunately, there were other circumstances that made it tough for us to commit to each other. The second was a girl from OKC who I was seeing pretty frequently, and while we liked each other, things did not go all the way to becoming boyfriend/girlfriend.

    All this being said, I do have friends and family members who have met their partners on dating apps. My sister met her fiancé on Hinge, one of my cousins met his girlfriend on Coffee Meets Bagel, and a number of my friends have met their partners (including spouses) on CMB, Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble.

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