I [27m] don’t really feel much when penetrating my partner, or when receiving blowjobs. Usually this means that when things get really wet it make take quite a while for me to achieve orgasm (if at all).
I don’t remember ever “feeling more” and always thought that sex was more about visual stimulation until my current partner pointed how long it took for me to orgasm.
I want to ask fellow redditors, are penetration and blowjobs supposed to be super stimulant? Or is this kind of normal?
For those wondering if it’s some kind of death grip problem, I don’t masturbate that often or hard, and have taken a few months long breaks form masturbation hoping that this would be the issue.
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People are very different. A dear friend of mine jizzes his pants if I nibble his ear (we were kink partners at one point, and it was fun to torture him in public). Some others don’t orgasm easy. Everyone’s turn ons are different. You might be naturally less sensitive to physical stimulation, and more to visual cues. There really is no normal when it comes to these things. Just what works for you.
Well, you know how they say you lose sensitivity from the ol’ death grip? Unfortunately, that’s the sensitivity level some people start with. Same goes with females, I’ve known some to be super easy to stimulate and make orgasm, and some that take a LOT of work in just the exact right way. Neither is right or wrong, it’s just how people are. Just find what works for you.
I’ve never found either of those very stimulating either (also not death grip). “Death grip” is pretty much the only “advice” this sub will offer men in this situation though unfortunately.
You may just not be very sensitive, everyone is different. Try incorporating toys (for you, or both of you), or have her get you close with foreplay before beginning penetration