me (18f) and my boyfriend (18m) recently started dating. we have had sex before but we haven’t done it for a few weeks. i’ve asked him why we haven’t and he says he wants it to happen naturally. i don’t know how to make the first move since he’s my first and i’ve only had sex like two times. we cuddle and kiss but i’m not sure how to turn that into sex lol.
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Slightly push your thigh in his crotch when cuddling and see if he’s “in the mood”. Linger it in there until he gets the gist.
Tell him ur pussy is fucking aching and u need him to slam ur guts back NOW
It can be a slow escalation from making out. You’re making out, then you’re grinding, then clothes start coming off, etc etc.
So the next time you’re making out, grind on his leg or something to indicate you’re turned on (or open to being turned on). You can also straddle him while making out.
What is more natural than saying, “I want you with me in bed NOW”. In any case “recently starting dating” and no sex “for a few weeks” does not bode well for the future. Generally sex is more frequent in the beginning of a relationship, and slows down later. If you have a desire for more sex, tell him. If he doesn’t give you what you need, find it elsewhere.
“Babe I wanna go to a hotel and fuck like rabbits.”
If he’s not up for it, at 18, I’d say you’re both sexually incompatible and he might have a testosterone issue.
Remember that sex isn’t just PIV (penis in vagina) slowly getting your clothes off while making out, and then rubbing up against each other’s thighs or rubbing your genitals together, or using your hands on each other is also sex.
For some, going on a date and having this idea that “this will have to end in sex” can put pressure on things. And 18 is still a weird age where your hormones can do stupid shit that you don’t want them to do, making things more complicated. He might have his own anxieties that make it harder for him to let go enough to have sex (fear of pregnancy, of STIs, of commitment, of not being able to perform, shame, being found out, etc). Talk about it.
Yikes. Honestly it sounds like you two are not compatible. He’s going to have every excuse in the book not to have sex, and it will always be your fault. But he simply doesn’t like sex, and he won’t admit it. Break up now. Don’t waste more time
Massage. Make it long, deep and sensual. Brush against their private parts playfully before you begin to baggage them