So I matched X on bumble. We started talking for about a week or so. He was great, but there would occasionally be an odd comment ( things like, “I am not the type of man you want to disappoint”, though he said that about someone at work and not me). Anyway about a week later it’s my birthday and I go out with friends for margaritas. I don’t drink that much so I’m totally fine when we leave the brunch place. I text him a photo from the taxi that’s blurry because, well , I’m in a moving car right now. I captioned it something like “excuse the blurriness lol, might have had a few margaritas haha”. This guy, who has never sent me anything sexual or degrading, then immediately starts sending me dirty text messages. What bothered me so much about it wasn’t that he sent dirty messages. It was that he started getting sexual as soon as he heard I’d been drinking, which made me feel taken advantage of a little. It also made me nervous because it implied to me that if we had met, and I actually did have one too many, what would have happened IRL? I felt uncomfortable with that and ended it. I’m wondering now if maybe I overreacted?
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You absolutely did not. Him acting sexual when you were drinking is not the move – especially because you two are still in the talking phase so it’s a huge boundary overstep. It sounds like he was taking advantage of the situation and that’s a huge red flag – you did the right thing
That’s definitely worrying
You aren’t overreacting..
That’s the real him..
Trust your gut. It revealed the real him, don’t waste your time