My buddy a few years ago mentioned to me about how him and I and some other mate is different in that they’re closer with their mothers where as I’m closer with my father, but I disagree. I’ve always been equally close with both parents and loved them both equally. I always thought growing up that what one lacked, the other had an abundance of. If one punished me too harshly then the other would step in and back me up with getting a more leniant and fair punishment. I went to both for expressing my emotions when times were tough or great. It’s just that I have some more things in common with my dad than I do with my mom which is that we’re both male and we both have similar interests around science & technology. I think my bud picked up on that and perceived it as a demonstration of favoritism which I can understand but at the same time I wasn’t happy with the suggestion that I value my mom any less because of that, I still find ways to get common ground with her at the end of the day not that it really equates to social bonds. I mean look at how many people prefer their cats & dogs over humans.
What’s your situation and what gender are you?
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I’m closer to my mother, and I’m a woman. But this hasn’t always been the case. When I was a kid, I preferred my father and did more stuff with him. We both like sports–my mother does, too, but she doesn’t really know anything about sports–and we played basketball together. And I thought my mother was annoying when I was growing up because she’s very critical and was always lecturing about something. Now we’re more similar and think a lot alike. I’m more into conversation and intellectual stimulation now, and she’s the only person I’m around often who can provide that.