Do I need to tell my gf that I’ve never been intimiate before?

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1. >I also think I’m just maybe too old to have sex, I never got to have sex in my teens and since all the hormones and stuff are done it’s not going to be as good. Besides I don’t get why I would want to do it with her if I’m not a teenager anymore since I don’t have those “ raging hormones” ig so my sex drive should go away?

   This is stupid.

2. You’re 23 not 50. It’s only a big deal because you’re making it one.

3. Hi OP,

   You seem very vulnerable about sex. I lost my virginity at 24. It’s alright to be at 23 and still not had sex. There is not a universal law to measure up to. We are all on our own journeys in life.

   I think you’re hiding behind the lines of I haven’t had it yet and it won’t be good now, etc…

   My first time was alright not amazing. I was getting use to the sensations, impulses, and learning to lighten up alittle. Especially when I striped naked, I placed my knee on the futon trying to look good but failed when futon mechanism was not set right, it folded and I rolled off the bed. My gf at the time laughed, I laughed but carried on.

   What is it about intimacy from sex that makes you reject it? If your not scared or fearful. Do you have impulses for sex? Some people are asexual.

   If your partner is an understanding personality, I bet they would understand and support you through it. Don’t discount this chance. Making love to someone is amazing, scary, mess at times beautiful experience.

   I found out that for sex to be good and always improve but being open, honest, relax and communicate but also listen. She likes you to make advances but be aware sex is important to people if she can’t feel intimate with you in a relationship, it could be a deal breaker for your partner.

   Wish you the best OP