So I (20f) was having a very high sex drive for the last few months but my husband (21m) wasn’t in the mood as usual, and I understand that because life got a little harder on us lately. But still I couldn’t control myself so I tried to talk to him several times really seriously about my needs and how his “cold personality” affects me and that I am not happy at all. This went like this for the last 8-9 months
So I could see him try a little (cuddling and kissing me more often) but just for a short period of time after each “big talk”. Also I know he could do much better, like he was in the begging of our relationship 7 years ago. At this point I am tired of making all the effort and explaining my self over and over 😔 and this point I don’t even want him to tuch me.
Little note just you can kinda understand how things are:
On Valentine’s Day I gave him a parfume that he wanted and his favorite sweets. Also got new lingerie and I’ve tried to look my best for him. He gave me nothing (I wasn’t expecting anything to be honest because we are not really the celebrating kinda people) he thanked me for the gift and apologized for not getting anything, but the worst part is that sex was awful that day. I could feel him not enjoying it and he was just doing it for me. He just wanted to get over it. We are together since forever I know him well enough to read his thoughts. No kissing no cuddle no compliments, what I hated the most he didn’t put his hand on my body the whole time he just put me on top and waited to finish. It was so bad I faked cuming and cried myself to sleep I didn’t even wanted to talk to him.
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Hard to hear this as I am very much in the same situation, but as a man with a women with zero sex drive. My only thought in your case is to figure out his 5 languages of love. Yours is obviously touch as is mine and understanding your partners is very important. Marriage and love take work and if one person stops working than it is tough to keep things going. Just some thoughts.