So I’ve been talking w/ this guy and I caught feelings and I feel so dumb for catching feelings because he said he wanted just a hookup thing but he’s also sending mixed signals which I haven’t experienced with other fwb and I need advice. We had been snapping/texting for a couple months before hooking up, the first time we talked and hung out for an hour cuddled and watched YouTube, did the deed and he was acting shy and stuttering after and sat at the edge of his bed until I left (ab 10 minutes after) I kinda felt like he wouldn’t ask me to come over again because of this but once I left he was sending me texts saying he had a good night and continued to ask me over again for a few days after that (I was busy so two days after I went back) we did the same thing and this time he laid his head on me after and we talked ab work and mutual interests we have (he wasn’t so awkward), he replies to my stories on snap all the time and snaps me back n forth everyday, I’m his #1 on snap and I’m the first girl he’s been with in over a year.. I’ve been with other people this month but something about him made me start to like him, we have mutual interests, I’m physically attracted to him and I like his personality. I just don’t know if he feels the same, I know fwb is FRIENDS w benefits but I haven’t felt this ab any of the other guys or talked so regularly with any of them like I do him. Does he feel the same way? Is he just keeping me around for when he’s in the mood? Idk I need help because I don’t want to develop more feelings and get completely shut down. He’s the first guy I’ve had any emotions towards since my breakup 5 months ago and idk if I’m just lonely and stupid or what.. what do you think?
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Ive been here before so i totally understand.
When people mix FWB with relationship vibes, someone is gonna catch feelings. You arent stupid or anything youre just feeling another guy.
If you dont want to catch feelings more, then you have to self reflect and get your mind out of that. This is how i did it.
This girl treats me better than every other girl ive known. We were just fwb but we spend genuine good time together. Shes done so much for me its insane. But i had to take a step back and understand that shes had sex with other guys after the last time we physically met even as i type this it could be happening. When i started to get anxiety and overthink about her etc. Thats when i knew i had to get real with myself. Youre 18 and im 25 so it might not impact you but you have to get realistic as fuck about this situation and stop mixing your feelings into it. It will only hurt you.
He doesnt want you as a partner. Find others and dont do relationship vibes with fwb either.