I’m 21 (m) and I was exposed to porn at a young age, and used to masturbate a lot. But as a young kid or even a teen/young adult living with my parents, I wanted to be quiet so I wasn’t caught. So I’ve made a habit of being quiet while pleasuring myself or being pleasured. But I feel like my girlfriend wants some noise from me, because she constantly asks me “what?” during sex. To which I reply with “what?”. And it just constantly throws off the mood. Any advise on how I should remedy this, without being too repetitive or having it feel unnatural?
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Honestly? I’d say start with positions where she can’t see your face (doggy and reverse cowgirl are great for this) as this should help build your confidence by allowing you to start out with making noise without the pressure of knowing she can see you doing it.
Close your eyes, match your breathing with hers and lose yourself in the moment… The noises should come naturally after that 😏
You have to overcome embarrassment, cuz sex noises are sexy. So grunt and sigh, and say this feels good when it feels good. And if you’re thinking “I love how wet this pussy is” , say it out loud.
Also commands whispered in the ear can be super sexy… Just a simple “I want you to do this or that”
If you’re not comfortable with noises, start with just talking to her audibly so she doesn’t have to ask ‘what?’. Just tell her what feels good. Compliment her. Ask her to do things. Ask her what feels good. As you go you can get more comfortable with natural compliment noises so she can know what’s making you feel good without actual words. Enjoy the process!
I would narrate things you like. If she feels good, say it. Or getting close. Or if you’re grabbing or molesting a certain body part tell her you like it. Start a habit of saying things and the moans will follow.
you know when u pee and it feels really good and u let out a sigh but noones there so u let it out? learn to do that with people next to you in the urinal lol
doesn’t even matter what you say, my boyfriend usually is stuck in the “oh my god” loop and even that is hotter than silence
Try concentrating outside of sex. Ifvdhe strokes your arm and you like it, ‘mmmm that was nice” etc etc. Then transfer that to sex.
I don’t make sounds during sex really, or not much. It just feels fake to try to, I just go at it and enjoy. No one has ever mentioned it though.
Do not be embarrassed. Let her know what feels good by being more audible with moans and words of encouragement while she is doing something that feels good to you. Also when you are coming inside her is another good time to express yourself.
Just some iteration of “that feels good”, “you’re making me so hard” etc. I prefer talking to grunting noises (I find those more funny than anything) but I’m also something of a hypocrite because I prefer to moan vs talk lol.