I (21F) am newly single and in college. I’m not looking for commitment but I do want to have some fun with the guys here. I live in an apartment on campus so its very easy to meet up with guys. My question is how do you get over the initial awkwardness from when you first open the door for a guy. How do you transition from small talk to kissing to more?
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with your tongue, mostly.
Give him a tour of the apartment. End in the bedroom.
The same way you’d transition from small talk to any other activity: you ask them! e.g.:
“Wanna watch a movie?”, “Do you want to kiss for a while?”, “Are you into board games?”, “I’d like to have sex with you. How would that be for you?”, “Hey, do you want to play with my boobs?” etc.
leave the windows open and make it cold inside, then wear something thatll make YOU cold so you have to lay down in bed. thats what my girlfriend did to me, I’m like a sexual vampire, I won’t come in unless I’ve been invited. She said “ are you cold? 🙃” and I said nah I brought a jacket, but what she meant was , hey dumbass youre not getting my hints you wanna get under the blankets together and count the asbestos bumps on my ceiling? or just say u like your belly button being tickled from the inside
A girl once told me she had she had a sore thigh from sports practice, she asked me to “feel for a knot” there and told me ” yea there, can you massage it” in a playful time, when I did she kindve sat there a minute and then gently grabbed the back of my head and leaned in for a kiss
Now it’s up to a guy to get the hints to though, but after we had sex, she told me it was a lie about the sore leg lol
Sit down to watch a movie or talk or whatever and at some point just lean onto him, maybe even lean your head against his arm or shoulder or whatever. If I’m at all interested in a girl, I take that as a clear sign to make the next move. Just a bit of sustained physical touch, even if innocent in itself, to me has always meant that the door is open.