Anybody else sort of go on autopilot and say the total wrong things when you are getting anxious? Earlier today I was meeting some new people and said how’s it going, then they said nice to meet you when I expected a good, you? And I just said Good. And I feel so dumb and incompetent now it hurts.
Any tips on how to avoid this kind of thing? I work in a job where I work with the public so I’m meeting and talking with a lot of random people each day, basically all interactions go the same. But occasionally when they go off of the sort of “script” I have in my head I just carry it on anyway and it makes me feel so dumb then I’m stuck in my head and it just sucks.
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Also tips on how to feel better when things like these do happen. I’m stuck ruminating about it and feeling so embarrassed and I hate it.
First of all you want to get your anxiety checked with a therapist.
Second, if you are autopiloting it shows you aren’t actually focusing on what the other person is saying. Next time concentrate and listen to what is being said, then respond appropriately.