I (21M) asked a girl (20F) who I have been talking to a lot during and after class. We have even met up to study together for a test. I think that she is interested in me, so I asked her to do an activity together and she agreed.
On our walk home from class, I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie together. The movie is something that we will be discussing in our film class, but its kinda unecessary to watch just for school (its an easy class tbh). We have both already seen it before but its going to be a date rather than just watching a movie for school purposes. There are other evident signs that she is into me so I’m sure we aren’t going to be actually taking notes when watching the movie.
The problem is, this is gonna be the first time we are gonna be watching a movie together and its going to be at either one of our homes (probably in our rooms). I don’t want to make her think that I’m just trying to make an excuse to get into her pants like netflix and chill because I just want to enjoy spending time to get to know her and maybe gauge her interest by making a move like holding her hand or something. Sex is not the main end goal to me.
How should I act before and during the date so it doesn’t seem like I just want to have sex? Should I introduce snacks and make it more fun and comfortable for her? I don’t want to just hookup and it doesn’t seem like that’s what she wants too.
Before anyone roasts me for choosing “watching a movie” as a first date, we have hung out one-on-one before and are already comfortable talking with each other. We know enough about each other so I’m not afraid that watching a movie with her would mean less talking. In fact, its not at a movie theater so it won’t be a problem at all.
1 comment
Snacks are great to bring in, sit close to her. If you have noticed that she’s into it’s a big deal as if she wasn’t then you wouldn’t have a clue.
Take it easy and try to lean close and touch shoulders almost. If she moves away, just respect her space. Don’t rush into anything because as stated – you don’t want to do that anyway. Small amounts of physical contact and light brushes might get her to give you a go ahead so hold her in some way – you’ll know when it happens.
Don’t overthink anything be relaxed and glance at her from time to time while watching the film to make sure she’s comfortable and ok.