Women who take the high road with petty or passive aggressive people, when do you put your foot down and get to their level?

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1. When it gets personal/shady

2. Only when I know it will get them to shut up.

3. When it’s built up to a point that ignoring the disrespect would be disrespecting myself personally.

4. So far, never. I’m a very levelheaded person, and if I can’t resolve issues through a reasonable discussion, I just disengage.

5. When I feel disrespected and I can no longer take their pettiness.

6. Never. I am a pretty even-keeled and rational person. I don’t feel the need to “get down to their level” because I don’t really think that benefits anyone or even solves the problem anyway so there’s no point. I just continue to deal with those types of people the same way I deal with anyone else which is by being courteous, respectful, but also very honest with them. I’d someone is passive aggressive, I just call them out on it and ask them if we can have a discussion about what is clearly bothering them. But I’m not going to be as immature as them for the sake of proving a point.

7. I can think of once.

8. When I know I’ll have backup.

9. After almost 10 years of dealing with them 😅 and really as a last resort if I have to interact with them and they are rude/petty/disrespectful. Otherwise just try to give pleasantries or not see them at all

10. Meheh, my high road ppl just deploy ME.

11. I don’t, that will have them win and lose my self respect. If it’s at work, report what you can and find better options. If it’s family, don’t be afraid to leave.

12. When physical contact is made. If you hit me it’s over I’m going to jail.