post-divorce dads, how you doing?

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1. Better than ever. Couldn’t have made a better choice for myself and my kid (and for my ex, honestly).

2. It’s been almost 20 years, I’m still recovering financially, but the lack of emotional and physical abuse makes it worthwhile.

3. Pretty good, half a year now. Financially it hurt a bit bit but nothing too bad. Still getting used to the schedule and being a single dad to kid of nearly 2 years old.

4. It’s rough. I’ve been divorced about 5 years. I have joint physical / legal but my ex is being kind of emotionally rough with our child. I’m helping my child the best I can. Only God knows if I will ever fully recover, some due to what I experienced and some due to my own issues.

5. I have 100% custody of my son, I have nobody telling me how to live, and my money is my money.

6. Fairly well. I’m not saving a whole lot but I’m also not spending (or rather, someone isn’t spending) a shit load on a ton of unnecessary expenditures, my house is in order and clean, always food on the table, seeing a very nice lady who went through similar bullshit, lost a bunch of weight, kid stays at my house. All is right with the world.

7. Almost 2 years post-divorce and doing very well. Continue to have my son 50/50, kept the house, doing fine financially (although I haven’t really saved any money since the divorce, just holding steady at the moment), getting along well enough with the ex and co-parenting effectively, found a great woman I’m starting to build a future with. My son initially was hit hard by the divorce, but he’s bounced back and is doing great. His mom bought a house less than a 1/4 mile walk away, so he’s able to come back here and play with his friends on a regular basis when she has him. Overall, life is much improved and the future looks bright. I didn’t initially want the divorce, but it’s been one of the best things to happen to me.

8. My life is better now than it was when we were married. I feel like I’ve found a lot more of myself, built better relationships (romantic and otherwise), and I think despite the physical distance, I’m better able to be a positive and connected person with my kids.

   The divorce itself was amicable enough that we’re still friendly, but I imagine once the kids are fully out of the house and connecting with us as adults, my ex-wife and I won’t have much contact. I’m okay with that, and I’m sure she is too.

9. Amazing. Raised my daughter solo from 1yr old and she is 28 now.. new wife and 7 yr old son. Life goes on and is awesome