I am a 18m, and I haven’t gone on a date in my life. I grew up over weight so I was usually over looked. But before I left for basic training I slimmed down and put on some muscle. It’s whatever but now I am a little more attractive but that fat guy insecurity is still there. No matter how much I try I still can’t talk to females. I seem to over think, tell myself someone’s better then me and walk off. It sounds goofy but I’m pretty depressed right now and I can’t seem to see a light to this darkness. I understand that I am younger but all my friends are off with there significant other and I’m stuck going to college, working out, and then having hours to just think about me and shit. Any tips to help break out of this shell?
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If all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you want to join them? (be your own person)
Meanwhile, you’re sounding anxious (am I wrong?).
See my comments to this [Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/socialanxiety/comments/v8y9x0/22m_i_am_insecure_about_my_physical_health/) -it’s how I handled my anxiety.
Are you eating good foods? Diet plays a large part with mental health imo. Maybe get other hobbies and just practice talking to people in general. You don’t have to have romantic intention every time you just talk to a stranger and the more you do it the easier it gets for when you do see someone you are interested in. Unfortunately this world is a matter of choosing to swim or drown.
Brooo you are 18, you overthinking too much, I’am 21 bout to be 22 still a fucking virgin, i don’t even give a fuck, focus on yourself bro, fuck everybody else, let them do bro, the girls will eventually come, just focus on you, try to become the best version of yourself, and see what happens.
Overthinking is a problem I suffer from as well. Try and deal with that, and it may stomp out some if not all your anxiety with it. Sometimes anxiety or being nervous isn’t the actual issue. Sometimes it’s the mindset you go into it with. I find if I dumb myself down a bit and go into something less prepared I end up actually getting somewhere rather than being on the side lines just staring at them wondering how I could do it.
I gotta recommend you don’t refer to girls/women as “females”. It suggests you don’t see women as people. When it comes right down to it, having female friends and appreciating women as equals with the same rights as you is the best move you can make for yourself in this area at this stage of your life.